Dealing with people is a headache.

I know that the Lord want me to love the people around me, and we also need the interaction with people, but dealing with people is a headache. What does the Lord want to teach me?

Leader of children ministry

At my church it has been a probleem for a while that nobody want to work at church. It's always the same people every two years that sometimes take more than one department. Till last year I only had teacher of primary klas ( age 5 to 9). This year I'm the leader of children's ministry.

Catch this. I only worked with kids for like 2 to 4 years, and I liked worked with them even thou they test my patience which I don't have much. Follow up for the next two years I will be functioning as the leader of children ministry. I don't really know what they saw in me, but I was convinced that the Lord wanted me to do this.

Before 2025, the problem

The know problem is that everybody at church said that the kids are the future of the church, but the truth is nobody want to work with the kids. They said they are important, but everybody else give more importance to other departments than the kids ministry.

Sinds the beginning of this year, I told chuch cousil that I don't have enough teacher for all the four classes. They told me no, it's enough, if I need more people I can approach other people and ask them if they want to help. I was like: no, nomination committee, approched everybody and failed. I also put out an announcement saying: we are searching for more teachers, if you are interested, let me know. Nobody came, and still after this they want me to approach the members? No, I'm not doing that. They already said no two ways, why would I get a yes?

Schedule

I made a schedule from Jan till June and from July till Dec on onedrive, everybody can come and fill in the date that will give class.

January till june 2025

The year started with me needed to be in one class for nearly a month. I don't remember if the other classes where functioning at this time. Fast forward, it started to get better, but In april the only teacher for kindergarten ( 0-4) stopped coming because of personal reasons.

July till December 2025

It's September and still most of the classes are not filled in. Sinds may was this ready, after 3 months is still not complete fill in. I come to church and doesn't know which teacher I need to contact for this sabat. It's iritating. I told them many times to fill it in, now I'm done with this whole situation. Only thing I can do is let it go.

Letting go

I like to have a schedule to work, it's more organized and I know which class won't have class this Sabbat. I don't deal very well with last minute changes especially things that I need to fix last minute that I can't fix and people expect it to get fixed and keep pushing for me to fix it. I told the people concern about this whole schedule situationship and I planned a short reunion. To explain why is important for me to have the schedule filled in. From the 13 people, 4 where present, 2 already fill it in, the others two didn't. At this reunion, the pastor and... wanted to be present. I told that we will held this short after the church program, they went into a room to pray with a sister and didn't tell me about this. So I approached everybody apart so that they could leave.

It's bothering me

It's bothering me because I'm doing all my best to prepare months perior, but the most are not interested, and also they don't even let me know that they are not present either. So, that Saturday, no class has teacher, so I told evey parent that their kids need to stay with them in the church. Maybe some parent weren't happy with the situation, but this is what it is.

let go

It's hard for me to let go and let go God take control of it all. I have been doing all my best but all is in vain. Next week we will have a spacial prayer day. For this prayer day we will have a program for the kids aged 4 to 14. I choose 3 story with difrent aspect of how to approach prayer. First, I told my team to choose which activity they will have, and lastly I will choose. It has been 3 day, and only 2 people has chosen from the five ( I'm the fifth). So, today I choose, and on that day we will do want we have. I'm tired of waiting on people till last minute and then I need to rush because of them.

Not blaming them

I'm trying not to blame them for all the problem and stress they are causing me. So, my approach is that I won't tell no one else more that twice about some thing. After two times, I'm done. Being kind, chill and giving alot of time doesn't help and it only causes me to stress. So, it's God church, I will do what I can, but at the end He need to fix what need to be fixed.

Moral of the story

First of all, it's God's problem, then everybody at church problem. I don't need to make the church problem, my problem and stress about it. I just need to do what I'm responsible for and let everyone else realise that they are as responsible for the church that I am. What do you think about this situation? Inside how would you handle it?

Be blessed, and stay blessed.